“Are YOU Giving YOUR Power Away?”
Edith Howell ♦ July 4, 2013 ♦ 1 Comment
During our childhood experience sometimes there is a situation…Could this have happened to you as you were growing up?
Impressionable little children that are being raised by overpowering adults such as parents or extended family members that are so controlling and domineering and who expect unquestioning obedience.
Don’t think that I am making this up. Actually, I was raised by very authoritative adults, parents, aunts and uncles and even older cousins that were always meddling in my young life and ordering me around.
Just to give you one example, my uncle began teaching me since I was 4 years old, that I had to be quiet. He used to tell me, “I am going to take you to visit my friends, but don’t talk, don’t make any sounds, don’t complain, don’t even move.”
My uncle really taught me well how to be a stoic little soldier. He taught me to swallow up my emotions without saying a word, even if the situations were uncomfortable for me. I never knew what would happened to me if I spoke. To tell you the truth, my uncle never beat me up physically, but I sure felt that my life was in danger. I really felt threatened. So I learned to be so quiet, gray and submissive in order to survive.
Wow, what is really sad is that I became such a good student of my uncle because I believed and accepted every single word he told me. And to my own detriment, his teachings remained with me all my life, to the point that I always failed Public Talks Assignments. I did horrible at job interviews. I really failed at everything that required speaking and speaking up. By the way, I also developed a telephone phobia. I still remember that every time the telephone rang, I froze with fear. It was so hard to make doctor’s appointments for me and my children. Oh My God, How did I survive? How did you survive?
Even when I got sick with CFS/M.E. and the minister of my congregation would try to inquire about my health, I froze. I felt so out-of-place receiving his attention. I really was not used to receiving any loving attention. I did not know it then, because I hadn’t learned EFT yet, but the truth was that “I wasn’t worthy of receiving his time and his attention.” Loving attention never existed in my childhood environment for me because my poor mother was so overwhelmed by poverty and personally having to take care of 2 of her children with cerebral palsy while she worked as a maid. How did she survive?
There were so many teachers like my uncle in my life, no wonder I was so afraid, so afraid to be me. So if this resonates with you. Do you ever ask yourself these questions?
- Why couldn’t I have been allowed to be me?
- Why couldn’t I have been allowed to choose my likes and my dislikes?
- What is so wrong with me being me?
- Why aren’t I allowed to direct my own life?
- Why do I feel so worthless?
- Why do I feel all this shame?
- Why do I feel this emptiness in my heart?
- Why am I so afraid?
- Is it really too late to change and heal the unhealthy patterns and beliefs that others downloaded into me?
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WHAT I KNOW
I know that a childhood experience as severe as mine would require the artful guidance of your own EFT Coach, because as many of you have heard me say before: “WE ALL HAVE BLIND SPOTS.”
When we are immersed in our own emotional inner turmoil, we just don’t see clearly. Where do you begin? How far in your childhood should you go? Does this event relate to that event? Some of you have told me that “You don’t know what to say” or that “You don’t remember your childhood” Some of you have told me, that “You cannot access your emotions”. In view of all of these questions and facts, is it really wise to try to do this healing work by yourself?
And to tell you the truth, there is nothing like experiencing the magic of your own EFT session with me, because I really help you to achieve your transformation, and this is something that you witness yourself during your session, and after your session. You feel the results in your own life. And other people can see the highest version of yourself.
Hey, After all, I suffered similar childhood experiences as yours, and I have already helped clients that suffered worse experiences than my own. Like being sexually abused by family members and issues like that.
By the way, I could never have said this to you before, if I had not healed my childhood events with my uncle and other authority figures in my life, but thanks to EFT, Emotional Freedom Techniques, I healed my traumatic childhood experiences and I claimed my power back and you know what…YOU CAN DO IT TOO.
BUT THERE IS SOMETHING THAT YOU CAN DO RIGHT NOW TO HELP YOURSELF
Whenever a situation arises that requires your opinion or your choice, don’t say:
“Whatever You Want” because when you say: “I WILL DO WHATEVER YOU WANT’ YOU ARE IN EFFECT GIVING YOUR POWER AWAY.
You have the right to choose how you want to live your life; so CHOOSE IN A WAY THAT EMPOWERS YOU AND MAKES YOU HAPPY, LOVE YOURSELF UNCONDITIONALLY, BECAUSE WHEN YOU LIVE THIS WAY, YOU ARE LIVING YOUR LIFE FROM A PLACE OF BALANCE AND PEACE.
I can help you to eliminate your need to ask other people for permission to live your own life. You will be able to know that you don’t need anybody’s approval to BE YOU.
And guess what, You will inspire people around you with your happy energy and your conscious choices.
To ease into this new way of acting, you can start with every day events, For example, if someone asks you…
- Do you prefer coffee or tea? Take a moment and think. What do I really want? and then firmly state what you want.
- Do you want to go to the movies or to the mall? You might think that this is so stupid, and does it really matter how you respond?
Please notice, that when you were a child, and you were treated abusively, you really could not choose, and even if you dared to dream; it was the adults responsible for you who made all the decisions concerning you. But the way you were treated set up patterns for you for the rest of your life, yes, even your adult life.
Your new way of acting and choosing in everyday life will give you the practice that you need, so when you are presented with really important decisions, you take your time, and really feel it in your heart, What do I really want to do now? And then you will be able to step into your life with power, because you are claiming your power back, it is yours, you deserve it. You already know that severe cases of childhood abuse, adult trauma, and chronic issues really require professional EFT help.
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So I would like to ask you now…
- What is the most beneficial idea that you are taking away from this article: “Are You Giving Your Power Away?”
- Do you feel that you experience some kind of childhood abuse? How did these experiences affect your life?
Can you share your comments with us below…We all love to hear about your experiences.
Thanks for reading my article: “Are YOU Giving YOUR Power Away?
Edith Howell, EFT Mindandbody Expert, Certified by Gary Craig, The Creator of EFT, Emotional Freedom Techniques.
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