“EFT Can Help Heal Your Father’s Rejection of You” (Also for CFS/M.E.)
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“EFT Can Help Heal Your Father’s Rejection of You”
If you are a parent you know how important your role is in the lives of your children. Because the way your children perceive you will affect their whole life. Are you a loving dad? If your children always feel supported by you, they will feel free to call you whenever they need to talk to someone. But if you are always angry, stressed out, overwhelmed or violent, your kids will be frightened of you. And the minute you come home, they go into hiding. Of course, when they grow up, they will run away from your house as soon as they can and might even live on the other side of the world. Just because you did not build a loving and respectful relationship with your own children.
Maybe by now, you are thinking about your parenting style. Maybe, you are remembering your own childhood experience. How was your relationship with your dad?
- Did you feel safe and protected when he was around?
- Were you happy when your dad arrived home from work?
- Was your dad physically present at home, but emotionally absent?
- Did your dad hug you?
- Did your dad wipe your tears when you were hurting?
- Did your dad show compassion for you?
- Did your dad validate you?
- Did your dad approve of you?
- Did your dad abandon you?
- Did your dad reject you?
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For this EFT exercise, I am using the “Father Figure” but you can replace the word father for mother, or for the name of the person who raised you.
Furthermore, I want you to know that it is very important to heal your unresolved childhood emotional issues because they affect your adult physical and emotional health. You are here to love yourself and enjoy a happy life, but you won’t be able to be happy if you are suffering illness or you are walking around in life feeling rejected. What can happen if you don’t heal your experience of being rejected? You will attract more of the same energy of rejection into your life. (and that includes, love, friendships, career, everything)
Does it make sense to you?
SETTING THE INTENTION TO HEAL:
Tap 7 to 10 times on your karate chop point (side of hand) or on your favorite point and say:
My intention is to heal the pain of being rejected by my own father (OR MOTHER)
When you think about growing up with your dad or your mom, what emotion do you feel? Do you feel sadness? Do you feel anger? Do you feel disappointment? Where do you feel that emotion in your body? You might feel the emotion in your chest, your tummy, etc.
EFT TIP: Focus on one specific incident with your dad. Do you have an event in your mind now? How old were you? Where were you? You could tap for example: Even though I feel sadness because my dad rejected me, and it is a 8. I deeply love and accept myself and I open myself to the possibility that I could release this sadness (tap on all the energy points, until your emotional intensity decreases)
Rate the intensity of your emotion on a scale of 0-10 (SUDS Rating-Subjective Units of Distress)
10 meaning – your highest intensity (I feel terrible)
0 meaning – no intensity at all (I feel happy) * Remember to drink water before and during tapping
Note: These videos and tapping scripts are generic in nature and not reflective of an actual EFT session with us. Our sessions are specifically designed for YOU, Your special Needs, Circumstances and Specific Events in Your Life. We help you neutralize the destructive emotions of anger, grief, self-doubt, fear, nervousness, lack of confidence, emotional TRAUMA or any other negative emotion or memory that robs you our your joy. Then we help you to be imprinted with positive beliefs and emotions for permanent change and well-being. If you agree to follow this EFT Round, you are agreeing to take full responsibility for your own well-being. Further, these EFT phrases might trigger your own memories and emotions, write them down and then do EFT focusing on them, until you do not feel an emotional intensity. You deserve peace, so keep tapping.
While rubbing the sore spot on your chest or tapping the karate chop point of either hand (7-10 times) Repeat the following EFT Phrases aloud:
EFT SET UP PHRASES
Even though my father rejected me, he never wanted to do anything with me, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself
Even though I feel so hurt because my dad never cared about me, he still doesn’t care, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
Even though my dad never approved of me, he really rejected me, I deeply and completely love and accept myself, and I accept that this is true in my family
Even though I feel rejected by my dad, he never did anything special for me, I deeply accept myself and maybe I can be open to forgiving him
Now tap on the following energy points while repeating your negative reminder phrases: If possible tap on both sides of the face and body. (Use 3 or 4 fingers of one hand to tap on the energy points)
Crown of head: My dad rejected me
Beginning of eyebrow: He never wanted to do anything with me
Side of eye: My dad rejected me
Under eye: I feel so hurt!
Under nose: My dad never cared about me
Under mouth: This rejection
Collarbone: My father never approved of me
Under arm: My dad doesn’t approve of me even now
Crown of head: My dad really rejected me!
Beginning of eyebrow: I am so hurt!
Side of eye: I feel rejected
Under eye: My dad rejected me
Under nose: He still does!
Under mouth: My dad never did anything special for me
Collarbone: My dad ignored me
Under arm: My father didn’t care for me
Crown of head: All this pain in my heart!
Take a deep breath and release all the ways you felt rejected by your father. Release them from your mind and body!
How do you feel?
Rate your emotional intensity level on a scale of 0-10, do several rounds until your intensity is down to ZERO.
Now tap REFRAMING AND POSITIVE CHOICES on each of the following energy points:
Crown of head: I think that is just the way he was
Beginning of eyebrow: It was typical of him
Side of eye: All families have issues
Under eye: I cannot change my dad
Under nose: I can only change me
Under mouth: so from now on, I am approving of myself!
Collarbone: I am welcoming myself
Under arm: I am accepting myself just the way I am
Crown of head: Maybe my dad was raised the same way
Beginning of eyebrow: Maybe he thought that that was the right way to raise a child
Side of eye: Maybe he really didn’t know any better
Under eye: Maybe he was doing the best he knew how
Under nose: Given his own resources
Under mouth: and his own limitations
Collarbone: I recognize now that change begins with me!
Under arm: I am willing to love myself and to do special things for me!
Crown of head: I am willing to accept and treat myself like an honored guest!
Take a deep breath and relax your mind and body.
“Gratitude Process”
Put your hand on the middle of your chest (your heart center) and tap while repeating aloud:
Remember that we want to establish a connection between our mind and our heart because we want to live a heart centered life!
I am grateful because I approve of myself
I am grateful because I love and accept myself just the way I am
I am grateful because I am the one who is willing to change and do things in a different way
I am grateful because I know that I am magnificent!
I am grateful because I am doing special things for me!
I am grateful because I am treating myself like an honored guest!
I am grateful because I am willing to forgive my father
I am grateful because I am able to forgive my father
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My questions for you today are:
- Do you feel that your father rejected you?
- How has your dad’s rejection of you affected your life, your love relationships, your friendships, your career?
- What have you found useful when dealing with your dad’s rejections?
- Do you see the value in treating yourself like an honored guest?
- How did this EFT exercise helped YOU?
Feel free to share your thoughts below, we appreciate hearing from you.
*If you are tired of suffering the effects of your traumatic childhood experience or adult trauma and you really want to transform yourself at a very deep level, click here: https://eftmindandbody.com/services/
Much love, and take care of yourself,
Edith Howell, EFT Mindandbody Expert, Certified by Gary Craig, The Creator of EFT, Emotional Freedom Techniques
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Great script thanks. I also have a fear of tapping like I feel guilty. Can u do a script for that.
Hi Katie:
I am happy that this EFT Exercise is helping you. I am sorry that I don’t understand your request. Are you saying that you feel guilty about tapping? Do you think that there is a part of you that feels guilty about getting better?
Or are you saying that you feel guilty about doing something or not doing something?
Just a reminder: For EFT to be effective, you have to be very specific, focusing on your own personal issue that you wish to clear. We have to dig deeper to find out what is really happening. Sometimes, we go back to a person’s early childhood. But every person’s history is unique.
Take care, Edith Howell
Thank you Edith for this script. Even though it is best to be specific when tapping on certain experiences etc i definitely had a shift and a release doing this script. I didn’t realize how much residual sadness that i still have
About my father leaving and not showing up for me. Constantly disappointing me and me always believing, having a glimmer of hope that perhaps just that one time it would be different. That he would come through.
He put my life in danger many times as a child and still I had hope. That really makes me so sad for my inner little child.
Thank you again.
Kelcy
Hi Kelcy:
Thank you for sharing part of your story with us here. I am sorry for what you suffered. Give yourself a lot of credit for what you went through as a child, but now it is time for you to heal your childhood experience. We make an effort to provide rich content in our EFT articles so each reader can walk away with something valuable that they can implement in their own lives, these EFT exercises are good starting points for healing.
Look around in our website and tap with us. For example:
https://eftmindandbody.com/2013/01/21/are-your-mothers-issues-blocking-you-from-receiving/
https://eftmindandbody.com/2013/02/25/eft-because-my-parents-didnt-love-me-cfsm-e/
We are here if you need serious help.
Take care, Edith Howell
P.S. Remember, Love Yourself Unconditionally because You deserve it!